Building relationships is always difficult. If your choice is polymorphic dating, your life will be even more difficult. There are several ways to make it easier – to establish a few rules and discuss important points.
The rules will not be strict, it is more like recommendations. Or the principles that you should be guided in your relationship. You can set the necessary boundaries and make everyone profitable if you follow the recommendations from the very beginning of your relationship and do not neglect them. Remember: the more people involved in a relationship, the harder they become. You are dealing with a large number of people, their feelings and experiences.
The more people in your relationship, the more likely it is that everything will get confused and become complicated.
Polyamorous dating can help you satisfy your emotional needs that your partner cannot give you. They help you better understand yourself and other people.
Whether you are interested in poly dating or in a monogamous relationship, the following guidelines can help you make your two-way or three-way relationship healthy and happy.
How much do you want to talk about it
This is a very important point that must be discussed. You or your partner may not like it when a loved one talks about his adventures. He can be jealous, nervous and upset. Especially if you come and tell how well you spent the evening with a new friend, what you drank and ate in the restaurant.
It is possible that everyone will be comfortable if one of the partners says that he leaves without explaining where he or she goes and with whom. If you are comfortable when your relationship is being discussed with a third person, say it. If not, this should also be reported.
It does not mean that it is worth telling everyone and everything. Each pair has its own personal moments that belong only to two people. Save them. Favorite movie, “your” place or a magical evening together – such moments make relationship more intimate and this intimacy should be preserved.
Establish a limit
If you and your fiancé are meeting other people and the four of you are not together, you must set boundaries. This is especially true about the time. Allocate time between your second partner and the groom so that everyone is happy. Make sure he does the same for you.
You should reserve a few days a week for yourself and for others. For example, on Wednesday and Friday you are together, and Thursday and Saturday with your partners. This is necessary so that you do not ringing off in the evening when your loved one is with someone else. Keep in mind that other members of your group may do the same to you.
Respect each other
This is especially true for your partner’s partners. Any relationship requires balance. The more people are in your relationship, the more difficult it is to keep it. One of the ways to do this is to respect the choice of your partner and his chosen ones.
If you can not do this, your negativity may offend and push your partner away from you. He will think that you are not ready for this form of relationship, despite the fact that you agreed to them. That you want to be in the center of attention of your partner, what cannot be in such relationships.
Try to put some respectful distance, do not speak badly about other people. Focus on the success of your own relationship.
Be realistic
No one can predict how your relationship will develop. Perhaps you will live happily together for many years, or maybe nothing will come of it. It is likely that your loved one will want monogamous relationship with another partner. Be realists, think straight and don’t build castles in the air. Everything can change at any time and you should be prepared for this.
Take into account the motives of all participants
Such relationships only work when everyone agrees to live like that. If you greenlight you partner to find someone else because you don’t want to lose her/him but it doesn’t really suit you, nothing will work.
Where to find the second partner
If you and your partner are ready for this form of relationship, the question arises: where to find such a partner? There are special sites for polyamorous dating. There you can meet people who share your views.